Sometimes our pain is so deep, we can’t utter the words that might bring healing to our hurting souls. There are times that we commit private sins that we are too ashamed to share with another person. Have you ever felt resentful that God kept growing your family when you felt that it was large enough? Have you ever held on to bitterness toward a relative who aggressively opposed your homeschooling? Do you regret the abusive discipline that you used with your rebellious son? In our heart of hearts, we mourn over such sins, but dare not voice them to another woman because we are afraid she will judge. We know that if we bring them before God and are committed to change, he forgives us and changes us. However, the emotion and grief are still alive inside us. We need to get it all out.
Write and Shred
One technique that brings healing is to pour out our souls to the page. Much like keeping a journal, writing down our thoughts and feelings can be therapeutic. Sometimes we don’t do this because we don’t want someone to discover our darkest secret thoughts. However, if we decide to shred the page after we write, we get the benefit of telling someone. We get the benefit of releasing all that pent-up guilt and emotion. Try these ideas:
- Make a list of your worst offensive thoughts that you need to confess to God.
- Pretend you are writing a letter to the person that offended you. Ultimately, you need to forgive them. You can tell them how you have been offended and about your hurt, but then release yourself from being enslaved to bitterness by forgiving them.
After you do one these things, shred the page. Shredding it is a symbol of letting it go, of releasing it to God, of acknowledging that it no longer exists. Then, allow God’s forgiveness to penetrate to those dark places and bring light.
Do you have other ideas for how to use writing as therapy?